27 Apr 2009
FUN MONDAY - About marriage
Hoosier Girl proposed this topic: Love and Marriage. what is important to a good marriage or relationship? Tell us a story of something endearing about your marriage or your parents' marriage. Include any wedding pictures or images of love that remind you of what a good relationship should be.
A good relationship is when you are not getting on each others nerve after 30 years (to make a round number). I am married for 40 years now and we know each other since 41 years, which is quite a long time. Our friends who married at the same time end the 60th have all divorced after 25 to 35 years of marriage.
For me marriage was or is devided in 3 important parts. Enough time alone together before thinking of babies. When a child or children are there don't forget that you are also a man and a woman and not only a mom and a dad. Quality time as a couple is very important.
Some women as soon as they become mother they are mothers and nothing else. If the marriage breaks then it is not surprising. In the third part of your life together your children have left and you are suddenly alone again like at the beginning of your marriage. If you haven't safed some time as a loving couple there will be no communication anymore, a mom and a dad without children and not a wife and a husband who could now enjoy time together with probably more money and more time as in the beginning.
That's all I have to say about marriage. It would also be better to live at least one year together without making your relationship official. Never buy a cat in a bag, that's what my grandma told me !
These pictures are from October and December 1969, the civil and religious wedding. To get everybody together we had to marry twice ! We were 25 and 28 years old which was quite old for that time.