HOW THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE CAN BECOME A BURDEN

Many women had never imagined that the love of their lives would become a burden, once he retires ! They had imagined leisurely days they could spend together doing all the things they loved to do. But when this day arrives it often is completely different !



When 30, 40 or 50 years before you loved to spend the whole day with the man of your dreams, it now can become very stressful for wives who suddenly have to face the continuous presence of a "stranger" in the house and he becomes a  burden ! Living together 24 hours a day is not so easy especially when you are not used to it at all because often the wife to had worked the whole day and they only got together in the evenings and holidays !


The theory of retired husband syndrome was first established 30 years ago by an American doctor. What he heard all day from wives of retired men was :

‘I’m going nuts’, ‘I want to scream’, or ‘he’s under my feet all the time’, 'yesterday he told me how to fill the dishwasher ! after 40 years'. 'He potters around the house and is always telling me what I should do'. 'As soon as I open my eyes in the morning he asks me what we would have for supper tonight' .....'

The situation can really become a big burden when the husband wants to have his wife with him everywhere. So it becomes a problem when she wants to travel and see the world and he prefers staying home. When she has plenty of friends, and he has nobody the colleagues have all disappeared. Or the other way around ! When the wife wants to stay home and he wants to travel !

Maybe to make the burden less heavy, couples should make more compromises and respect the tastes and wishes of the partner.



Or you move to your children ....





Linking to Five Minutes Friday

PRAISING NEW INVENTIONS !

With the word "praise" I immediately thought of what nice inventions we have today in our households compared to what our grandmothers or mothers had.



For example we have a robot called Oscar for mowing the lawn ! Each time I see it moving across the lawn in no special order like a human would do, I praise the fact that I can sit there on my terrace, see it working and surf a little on my computer, which also is a big help, especially when it comes to shopping !



Another great invention is the dishwasher which I praise when my guests are gone the stomachs filled and I only have to put the dishes in the machine and push a button, which is terribly tiring. Cat Arthur uses it only when it's empty !



And when I think of my mother who all two weeks carried from the basement a huge pot and cooked the laundry ! Then she had to take the wet laundry out of the pot,  which was very heavy and put it in a spindryer (already a progress), to get rid of most of the water. In fact the whole day was dedicated to the laundry and in the evening mother fell half dead in her bed.

I instead am a genius ! I mow the lawn while sitting at my computer, before I had just pushed on the button of the dishwasher and on the button of the washing machine (previously loaded with dirty laundry) and do all three things at the same time. I am not especially tired from all this work,

I even can still put flour, oil and water in the bread baking machine and bake a fresh bread ! And all this without getting a burn out of too much work !



Linking to Five Min Friday - Praise





Isn't that wonderful ? An easy life thanks to all these machines I praise the inventors !!