27 Sep 2013


more participants at Susanne at Living to tell the Story.

1.The week started with the preparation of the entry of Mr. G. into Hospital ! He had a benign growth under the skin just besides the carotid and the doctor preferred to take it out. So on the sofa in his office he stocked all things he would take along for a 4 day stay in hospital. I mean besides a pajama some underwear and a bathrobe you don't need anything more. But when I looked on the sofa I got the impression that he will go on holidays for at least a week ! The cats were happy and slept all on the fresh laundry leaving generously their hairs. I told him he can't go with cat hairs to a hospital, and that I had to prepare fresh clothes now, but he said it wouldn't matter, a few cat hairs wouldn't disturb. No comment ! The whole day was very hectic, of course he was stressed so I shut up and was a good punching ball.

2. On Thursday morning at 6.30 am I drove him to the hospital. It once had been a little local hospital when we moved to Waterloo and now had been taken over by another big one and had been extended and extended so that it had become enormous. The entrance was closed, we were too early. So we stood there with the different bags and I thought it is easier to go into Ford Knox then into this clinic. Suddenly we saw a a huge Harley Davidson arriving with a guy all dressed in black leather and a black helmet, and I feared, with the luck I have lately, we will certainly be shot and our belongings stolen. The guy got off his bike, took off his helmet and said that he was a doctor and that he would let us in with his badge ! We followed him and not one single human being was in view. The reception also was closed. We sat down and waited. Mr. G. got more and more nervous and I absorbed his stress like a sponge. At 7 sharp, the reception opened and we could get the papers done for the National Health insurance and could finally go into his room on the 4th floor. There the door to the "section North" was closed too. I rang a bell and after a while the door opened from alone. A very friendly nurse showed us into his room. Maybe I should explain that all rooms only have two beds not more. In some other hospitals there are sometimes 3 beds but that's in mostly very old hospitals. We have an extra hospitalization insurance to get a single bed room.

The room was very pleasant, very modern with a huge bathroom and had a nice view on the fields (except the electric installations) The nurse was slightly surprised when she saw the bags, gave him a nightgown and told him what to do or rather not to do, while I unpacked and put his belongings in the closet. Then I kissed him goodbye and left the hospital.  First I had to sit down on a bench to calm down ! Then I drove home and waited for 4 hours to finally get the good news that the surgery had went well. Our son had sent a few sms to ask about news, which comforted me as I felt less alone. During the morning my friends called too and asked me out for a restaurant but I couldn't swallow a single thing.

In the afternoon finally I could go and see him.

As it was early I stopped at Nicole's and we sat on her terrace in the sunshine and had a NA beer. (non alcoholic)

Her dog Charlie tried to distract me playing in the rubbles of the terrace which was in full repair.
And then I left and only got lost twice in this huge hospital and found my man decorated with tubes and connected to all kind of things. First thing when he saw me, he complained that he was hungry and nobody wanted to give him something to eat. That was a good sign. The only thing which worried him was not me or our son or anybody else, but Kim our cat which I had to take to the groomer in the morning, which already had left me exhausted, because catching her alone and put her in the carrier is a very difficult work ! After having listened to his complaints I returned home, fell on the sofa and wanted to cry I was so exhausted. Finally I could let myself go and relax. In the evening our son called and proposed to come this weekend, which I found really adorable that he worried so much about his father, but for a visit with his family would have been far too early. I am completely worn out and need a few days rest.  Mr. G. anyway, will probably spend the day in his bed. I suggested the weekend after when we are both feeling better.

3. the next day in the afternoon I went with Dominique to visit him. He was in a very good shape, feeling well and of course hungry. He had told me that I shouldn't bring anything to eat as he would get out the next day. So I came with nothing.

The King was not happy about that because I should have brought something. So I went to the hospital shop and bought a sandwich (which of course was not the right one) Poor Dominique tried to calm him down and proposed to buy some cookies, which he didn't want either.

After the visit we went to a store, she needed some things and I needed colors for my paintings and came out with this beautiful lamp after the motto make yourself some pleasure !

4. The next morning fortunately I had my painting class and of course everybody wanted to know about Mr. G. I called him to know how he was and he told me that he is waiting for the doctor to know if he can leave the hospital already.

I have  no idea if this these sudden worries in my life brought me into another direction of painting, but the cat painting I had almost finished I  hated suddenly, so I took the largest brush I had and just painted without thinking, making fun of myself and telling that I am liberating myself ! The result was rather surprising for everybody the teacher and I included and she told me to leave it like that, and to continue to "liberate myself" whatever that means ! The last cat painting above remains unfinished ! (for the moment)

5. I bought some grapes and cheese for the man and food for the cats before I collapsed on the sofa and watched a crime story, while I ate my toast some cheese and an apple.

I just had finished when I got another phone call from my son still insisting to come this weekend ! Men have no imagination ! How can I clean the guest room where Dominique's budgies have housed and the floor is full of grains  while I was in France, change the bed linen which the last guest had used, and the bathroom, not to talk about the meals and things to buy which usually we never buy, in the state of exhaustion I am ? And then risk to hear that the room is not clean ? And on top of that running around to fulfill the wishes of his highness ? I just hung up I couldn't speak anymore I needed my spray for the asthma attacks which I get occasionally when I am very excited. I mean the intention was very kind, but we wouldn't be able to enjoy their visit and the little grandson.

Then I drove to the hospital still a little breathless, Mr. G. already waited for me, kissed the nurses good bye and then we left. The afternoon ended with a cheerful Mr. G. and a half dead Mrs.G. But at 8 pm he suddenly became very tired and went to bed. This was the moment when I woke up ! 

I also got good news, tomorrow we have to go to sign the contract for my new car and maybe I will get it next week ! 

PS. This oh, so busy week is also the reason that I was unable to read my friends blogs and comment. Sorry for that. 


Andrew said...

I am pleased to hear he has recovered well. Stress can make you very tired along with having to think of so many things. Take some time to indulge yourself.

Linens and Royals said...

Love the lamp and you needed a treat after the trauma you and Mr G have been through. A family visit right now would only add to the stress.
Hope Kim goes quietly to the vet.

Kathie said...

Oh you've had a stressful week! So glad your dh is recovering well. I understand how you feel about the proposed visit - it was sweet that your boy wanted to come but a visit requires a lot of energy. Hope it works out for them to come next weekend - a much wiser plan.Take some time to relax - you need it!! xo

A Lady's Life said...

That is a beautiful lamp and your paintings are very nice as well Very contemporary lol
Men are usually bad patients.Most of it you have to let fly over your head.
They still love you and that is the most important thing.
But still I can imagine the worry he put you through with the operation.
Your hospitals seem different from ours. They are always open and we always wait by the operating room till it's over. sometimes they need to consult with family and patients feel better when family is there.Take care sweetie.

Anonymous said...

It's always so stressful when a family member has a medical procedure. I'm glad it all went well and he is home now - hope you can both get some rest.

I understand, too, about it being too soon for family to come. They don't want us to go to any trouble for them, but it still takes time and energy just to get ready for them. It was very sweet of him to offer.

Willow said...

Your tale of a hospital stay amused me. But I am glad Mr. G is home and doing well. Perhaps your son will come next weekend when everyone is a bit more rested. At least you had a chance to liberate yourself t

Laura@OutnumberedMom said...

Glad to hear your husband is doing well. What an adventure! Take care -- of him AND you.

diane b said...

You sure have had a hard week. Men are over the top when they are sick. I remember my dad nearly took my mum with him when he was sick and dying. He was so demanding and angry with her like it was her fault that he was sick.
Sad that your son doesn't understand the strain that is put on you.

Fun60 said...

Good to hear he is well and it is all over. Now you need 4 days in bed to recover!

Maribeth said...

Good to hear that all is well and he is home. I finally went to my doctor today and I have pneumonia and a bad sinus infection! So now I am on antibiotics and I must rest more the next few days! What that means, I do not know! I have been ill now 2 full weeks and have done nothing at all but sleep and watch old movies!

A Lady's Life said...

I just meant that you travel to many places and it seems Mr G is at home . I thought since he had knee problems, when they hurt some one could wheel him so he gets to rest it . I do not know if in Europe they have the electric scooter carts
I didn't mean the real cars but the small electric ones you can drive in the stores. They are like golf cars but smaller.
Did you see the blog picture I had below the post, with the RV and scooter? We have these electric scooters in stores for shopping and many old people drive them around all over the place. The battery lasts 8 hours.

Gattina said...

Yes, we have these cars too, even allows old people or disabled once to rent them and to drive along the seafront !

A Lady's Life said...

Gattina they are great. and excellent for people with knee problems who can otherwise walk but try not to, so the joint doesn't swell up.

Sallie (FullTime-Life) said...

Take care of yourself too and Mr G! Let your son clean the bedroom...he will understand!

Susanne said...

Whew, that was quite a week you had. Hospital stays are always stressful for both the person in the hospital and the loved one at home. But it sounds like you kept your sense of humor through it all and I'm glad Mr. G. is home and is fine. Hope you have a much more restful and stress free week.