23 Apr 2019

WORDLESS WEDNESDAY - HOW DO YOU RECOGNIZE A MANIPULATOR



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HOW DU YOU RECOGNIZE A MANIPULATOR

Family visits can be very tiring especially if one of the members is a very talented manipulator. Suddenly you have the impression that you are not in your home but in his !

Even if you are very clear about what you want, need, or said, he will find a way to turn the truth around and work in his favor. And he will brush it off by saying things such as “But I never said that" and then you are left defending yourself

For some reason, the manipulator thinks if he talks louder it makes him sound smarter or better. They also think it makes them right. Emotional manipulators do this all the time.

They just keep talking. And can even accompany their tactics with aggressive body language. They talk louder and over everyone else to gain control of the room and then you have no choice but to listen to him.

They make no apologies for saying you are wrong or doing things wrong. And by wrong, what they usually mean, is that you are not doing it their way! You’ll always be wrong unless you do it the way they think it needs to be done.

Whatever you decide to do about a classic manipulator in your life, decide that you are going to look after your best interest. The manipulator is not going to change. They won’t learn, they won’t think about how it’s impacting you. So you can’t rely on them to fix this for you.



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4 comments:

William Kendall said...

I've had two in the family.

Arthur looks all tuckered out.

ReHiTu said...

There are too many manipulators every where! Just ignore them!

Sallie (FullTime-Life) said...

The manipulator is probably worried about somebody in your household who is in the hospital? Maybe things will get better when "Mr G" does????

Sallie (FullTime-Life) said...

And oh my gosh I am so envious of your trip to the tulip fields -- incredibly beautiful!! Thanks for the joy (we never see any of those kind of spring flowers any more because it is too hot here in Florida; they won't grow. And I miss seeing them. (But I've never in my life seen any so beautiful as these you show!)