MANIC MONDAY LINK
When you are a child everything your parents are teaching you, you believe. Your faith in your parents teaching is based on a belief in their credibility. Children don't have other resources to compare their knowledges and therefore base everything on faith. This period of course is very much appreciated by parents.
When I was a child I of course believed everything my father or mother said. Even when it was crap. But that I only found out later. I had faith in them.
This usually changes between 13 and 15 when you become a Teenager. Suddenly you realize that not all what your parents say or had said is right. That's a very big discovery and changes you for the rest of your life. When the troubles with your parents start, it's because you suddenly have a personal opinion. The absolut faith is gone and usually parents are not (yet) used to this sudden changement of behaviour. They suddenly have to face a green haired punk or a belly bouton pierced daughter, and strange friends they don't have any faith in and feel a little lost.
I remember when I was that age I took my father for a stupid guy and everything he told me I was of another opinion even when sometimes he was right. As my mother had no own opinions but always the opinions of my father, I hadn't any trouble with her. Later of course I had to admit that sometimes he was right ! It is also the time were friends take more and more influence and if they are the wrong once that can cause quite some damages.
But apparently it is scientifically proved that the worst a teenager behaves with his parents, the better they are as an adult. Teenagers who don't have any own experiences and never are of another opinion and are the proud of their parents, they do their teen age years usually between 40 and 50. Especially boys. They suddenly think they had missed something and want to live like an 18 year old and taste freedom and new ideas or partners or both. But with a wife or husband and children behind they are not free anymore and that usually causes a lot of damages.
A lot of divorces occur around this age. Amongst my friends of all couples who had divorced either the man or the woman had been very good children, the permanent joy of their parents and had never caused any troubles to them.
Personally I enjoyed being a teenager very much, my parents not at all. And then later I got the bill ! I was the parent and was confronted with a teenager and I can tell you that was much less fun ! But in the end both parties found faith in each other again. (at least in my case). And that is the most important.
